Nobody should be scared or embarrassed to talk about how they feel or to ask for help. If you’re feeling sad, scared or angry and don’t know what to do, talking to a therapist can help.
Understanding how we feel is the first step to being able to look after ourselves, and it helps other people to look after us too. Here are few of the symptoms that we can help you understand and cope with. Don’t worry if you don’t know where to start, just click Get Help and we’ll take it from there.
Bullying is where someone hurts you either physically or verbally. This can include; calling you names, spreading lies about you, hurting or kicking you or taking your money or possessions. There are other types of more specific bullying; homophobic, racist, sizeist and sexist. Being a victim of this can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety or depression.
1 in 4 people have reported worrying about how angry they can feel. We often learn unhelpful ways to deal with frustrating or upsetting situations. If you struggle to express your feelings in a safe and responsible way, particularly anger, you may find yourself low in mood.
Anxiety affects one 1 in 10 adults at some stage in their lifetime, and twice as many women as men are affected. If you find you are restless and unable to sit and relax, you are avoiding certain situations/people, or you are constantly worrying, you may have anxiety. Other symptoms include heart pounding or stomach-churning sensations.
If you find yourself thinking, ‘I don’t understand why I am so tired all the time’, you may be suffering from Chronic Fatigue. Other symptoms include aching muscles and body pains, a disruption to your sleep/ eating routine, inability to concentrate and struggling to complete daily tasks.
Depression occurs in 1 in 10 adults in the UK at any one time. If you find yourself thinking things like, ‘I can’t be bothered’ ‘It’s not worth going on’, or ‘things will never change’, you may be suffering from depression. Depression can cause us to lose sight of the positive parts of our lives, and this makes us lose motivation.
If you feel that you’ve lost control over how much/ when/ where you are eating, or you feel that you must make yourself sick after eating, you may be suffering from eating difficulties. Research has suggested that as many as 1.5 million people in the UK might be experiencing some form of eating difficulty.
1 in 5 people are affected by irritable bowel syndrome, which you may be suffering from if you have been urgently needing the toilet more often than usual, or you have constipation, diarrhoea, or bloating. IBS can simply be caused by overactive nerves and muscles in the gut and stomach, but it can also be triggered by stress, anxiety or pressure.
Living with a long-term health condition can be overwhelming, and impact negatively on your mental wellbeing. You may feel out of control, nervous and worried; you may also feel insecure about dealing with your difficulties or adjusting your everyday life.
If, after a bereavement you have stopped doing the things you enjoy, you are putting off dealing with practical tasks, or you are avoiding talking about the loss, you may be suffering from low mood or depression.
Self-confidence is how a person feels about themselves and what they do. Someone with low self-confidence will generally feel they are not good at things, don’t deserve love or support and that situations will work out badly for them. Children and young people with low self-confidence often have a negative image of themselves, find it hard to make and keep friendships and tend to avoid change and new things.
These types of symptoms are known as medically unexplained when they last for more than a few weeks, but doctors can’t find a problem with the body that may be the cause. Many people with medically unexplained symptoms also have anxiety or depression. Treating an associated psychological problem can often relieve the physical symptoms.
Obsessions are intrusive thoughts or ideas that come into people’s minds that they do not want to do. They can be distracting and distressing. Compulsions are things that people feel they have to do, even when they do not want to and they feel frustrated and worried unless they can finish them. Many children have mild obsessions and compulsions at some time. For example, having to organise their toys in a special way
Panic can lead to panic attacks. This is an exaggeration of your body’s normal response to fear or stress. It is the rapid build-up of overwhelming physical sensations such as; a pounding heartbeat, feeling faint, sweating, feeling sick, chest pains and feeling shaky. Panic is often combined with anxiety. In children and young people it is common for them to experience symptoms like this around exams and deadlines.
You might develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) if you experience something where you feel really frightened, helpless or like you might die. Many young people who experience terrifying situations often recover without experiencing PTSD, however some do develop the disorder. The three main symptoms are; flashbacks or nightmares, avoidance and numbing,, and being on guard and unable to relax.
Body image is defined as how people feel about the way they look and the way their body functions. This can include a person’s thoughts and feelings about their weight, shape, skin colour, size, height and their appearance more broadly. Media is influencing many young people’s views of their own bodies. When they feel negative about their body, they can become increasingly depressed or anxious. It can also lead to eating disorders.
Children and young people can suffer with stress due to demands at school such as deadlines and exams. Stress is often a result of being put under pressure. Being under pressure is a normal part of life. If you often become overwhelmed by stress these feelings could be a problem for you. At this point it could lead to mental health problems.
Talking to a therapist when you’re not feeling happy can help you in many different ways. It gives you time to think, time to talk about your problems and understand how to get through difficult times. We have many different therapies and can help choose the one best for you.
…or talk, or shout, or cry. Sometimes talking to a friendly face can be all it takes to help you feel better.
If you’re confused about how you feel, therapy can help you to understand how your mind works, and what you need to do to feel better.
Therapy can teach you lots of different ways of dealing with problems and feeling happier or more confident.
If you feel bad about yourself, therapy can help you understand your strengths.
A lot of young people find it hard to make friends or talk to others. Therapy can help you gain confidence and teach you how to connect with people.
Things happen in life that can be difficult to deal with. Therapy can help you to figure out the best ways to cope with your anger or sadness.
You’re not alone in this. Here are the questions asked most often by people just like you, who are thinking about therapy.
You will need your parent/guardian’s permission to access therapy if you are under 16. This service is a donation service.
All of our therapies are free, but we depend on donations to run them. Click here to find out how you can support us.
We believe no problem is too small, nobody should feel like they can’t ask for help.
If how you’re feeling is affecting your daily life in a negative way, then therapy might be the answer.
You will be offered an assessment during which you will be asked questions and your assessor will determine which course of treatment will be most suitable for you.
Talking therapy is a great way to get to grips with how you feel: just click Get Help, give us a call or drop in, and we can help you decide what’s best.
You can ask your therapist anything in complete confidentiality: they won’t judge or criticise. Depending on the type of therapy, they’ll ask about your history, your daily interactions and thoughts and feelings, as well as about any medication you’re on, and about any physical illness you may have.
Approach treatment with an open mind, trust your therapist and try to practise coping methods at home. But don’t be afraid to tell us if you feel something’s not quite right.
Your first session will provide an opportunity for you to get to know your counsellor and to figure out how many sessions you will require. It will also give you the opportunity to ask any questions.
It depends on the type of treatment you are having: check out the info on the therapies page for a guide.
Should you feel that your therapist or type of therapy is not right for you at this time, if possible, please discuss this in the first instance with your current therapist. If you do not feel able to do this, please contact the service on 0300 123 0542 and tell them that you would like to talk to someone about changing therapist. Our administration team will arrange for a member of our team to discuss other individualised treatment options with you.
Our core working hours are 9-5pm. On occasion, we may be able to offer appointments outside of these times. However, this may mean an additional wait.